Many couples think they’re doing everything right. They’re making time for each other – a quick catch-up over dinner, running errands on the weekend – but after many years together, scheduling date nights that aren’t just ordering takeout and staying in to watch a movie can become few and far between.
“The demands of daily life (work, children, maintaining a household, logistics, etc.) have a way of slowly pushing aside moments that build and sustain connection amongst couples,”Tara Gogolinski, a licensed marriage and family therapist, told HuffPost.
“Then, without either person meaning for it to happen, they start drifting towards feeling more like roommates than partners.”
According to therapists, the problem usually isn’t a lack of time together. It’s the kind of time they’re spending together.
As Laura Richer, a couples therapist and founder of Anchor Light Therapy in Seattle, put it: “Intimacy requires presence. I...
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