People assume they know what bisexual meansApparently, being a bisexual man means everyone has a theory about your life, except you. To some people, I’m secretly gay. To others, I’m basically straight. To a surprising number of people, I’m destined to cheat on whoever I’m dating.
Coming out didn’t free me from those assumptions – it just gave people permission to say them out loud.
Growing up, I didn’t know one could be two. I learned that gay and straight were monoliths – rigid archetypes dictating not just your sexual interests, but all of your behaviours. The way you spoke, the way you walked, even how you spread your legs could tell the whole world whose legs you were interested in spreading.
We didn’t need viral Andrew Tate TikToks telling us ‘the rules’; if you found yourself in violation of the Straight Code, one o...
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