I needed my friends after dad died – they just disappeared

The people closest to me disappeared and left me feeling abandoned (Picture: Lowri Llewelyn)

‘I’ll have to come and see you soon,’ friends said when I told them Dad had died.

My father was my very best friend – everyone knew that, so I believed them when they said they’d be there to support me. 

But when months passed and my friends didn’t show up, I realised their words were meaningless. 

I’m not unreasonable: I know people have busy lives, and there might be reasons that you can’t be there. But what isn’t acceptable to me is promising someone you’ll be there and then flaking.

The people closest to me disappeared and left me feeling abandoned in the exact moment I needed them the most. To me, that is unforgivable. I can’t imagine ever letting them into my life again.

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