I had to admit it to my cleaning woman first, when I kept asking her to change the sheets in the room off our bedroom. Pretending some guest had slept in the bed could only last for so long.
I went into the room, just as she was snapping the crisp white sheets onto the bed.
“I sleep in here now. There’s nothing wrong between us, though…” I trailed off, waiting for her face to change.
She responded like I’d admitted to preferring one soap brand over another, not confessed to keeping a hidden room inside my marriage. “Half my clients sleep in two rooms, whether they tell me or not,” she replied.
The sleep itself is glorious. I wake softer, steadier, less easily undone by whatever the day brings. Explaining it to people is the only part that feels shameful. My friends tried to talk me out of it. My therapist looked skeptical. My mother was horrified, though I remember the twin beds in my grandparents’ bedroom working just fine for them.
When my h...
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