My ‘three month rule’ proved my date wasn’t the one for me

I created my three-month rule after noticing a recurring pattern in my dating experiences (Picture: Shakira Bruce-Abubakar)

Looking down at me, my date, Amiri* held my gaze for a beat before asking, ‘Do you want to go upstairs?’.

We’d somehow found ourselves on his living room floor after a passionate kiss on his sofa. I looked back at him, searching his face for confirmation of what I already suspected.

‘What?’ I laughed softly. ‘You want to have sex?’

He gazed at me, desire written plainly in his expression, and gave a small nod.

I wanted to have sex with him, too. Badly....