Maybe you’ve just got a promotion you’ve been angling for for years, or bought the home of your dreams. Perhaps your relationship is going better than you ever thought it could, and you’re getting recognised by people you’ve always looked up to.
But for some reason, it doesn’t make you happy – not in a lasting way, anyway.
This, Dr Tal Ben-Shahar told The New York Times, is the “arrival fallacy”.
Here’s what Elizabeth Walker, a cognitive behavioural coach and founder of The Empowerment Warrior, thinks of “arrival fallacy,” and how to deal with it.
What is “arrival fallacy” exactly?
“High achievers experiencing arrival fallacy may spend years working towards a goal, only to feel disappointed when success does not deliver the sense of contentment they expected,” Walker said.
It refers to a mismatch between how happy you think reaching a goal will make you feel and how it actually affects ...
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