The date was great – until he described his dream WhatsApp group

I liked him, but our goals clearly didn’t align (Picture: Liv Arnold)

‘My dream is to have a child in every country,’ said Ivan*, as he cut into his steak at dinner.

I paused with my fork halfway to my mouth. Surely, I’d misheard him.

We’d been on our first date for 30 minutes, sitting beneath a canopy of vines outside a farm-to-table restaurant in Phuket. Fairy lights glowed above us.

He was a fitness influencer – so, when I asked what he wanted most out of life, I expected the usual. ‘Never eat a carb again.’ ‘Teach Arnold Schwarzenegger how to lift.’

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