Penis size is not a matter of choice, but for many people with penises, size matters.
Usually, it matters more to the person with the penis than to their partner. People with smaller penises often live with the anxiety that they don’t measure up. This worry, known as small penis anxiety, is a very real thing.
Dr. Mindy DeSeta, a certified sexologist and sexuality educator for the Hily dating app, said there’s a strong cultural message that “size matters,” not just for sexual pleasure, but for masculinity, too. “Penis size is often treated like a shortcut — the bigger the penis, the more pleasure someone can supposedly give,” she said.
“Men who are believed to be ‘well-endowed’ are often labeled as more masculine or sexier,” DeSeta continued. “When someone internalises these messages, self-esteem can take a hit. They may start assuming they won’t be able to satisfy a partner, and that fear can lead them to avoid sex, dating, or relationships altogether.”
Porn and media are big drivers of these beliefs. “Over time, men who worry their penis is small ...
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